Trying to discuss engagement with my boyfriend


As another person wrote here, it would help to know both of your ages. This is probably oversimplistic, but my “substitute” grandmother once told me that men weren’t ready to settle down until after 30. I know a lot of men do, though! : )
You know what - - maybe God has something (or someone) else in mind. If I could give you a piece of advice, I would read a particular book. It has helped me a ton. It is called “First kill all the marriage counselors”. It kind of re-sets your perspective on women’s and men’s roles in relationships - - and the author tells it like it is. I realize that not everyone may like it, though.


I agree with this. Coming at this from the male perspective, I think a man in this situation who saw marriage in the future would not be uncomfortable with you mentioning it. In fact, when I was considering popping the question to my wife, I took that as a sign that she wanted me to propose, so I went for it.


Thank you for your advice, I will look into the book!

We are both 24 right now, although he will be 25 in a couple of months. We are still young, but through the lens of trad Catholics I do feel like we’re at the “right” age to talk about this sort of thing


Hmm…I feel a lot might be a little too hard on the lad! He sounds like he just wants to be sure, the Sacrament is a very important thing, and it lasts the entirety of life.

Sadly that means he may also be indecisive.

Give it some time. Maybe just ask him to pray about it, if he doesn’t want to talk with you about it.


In fairness, if he thinks marriage is in the future then he shouldn’t be uncomfortable discussing it.


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