I am new to this board. I am Catholic and have four children. I am married to a wonderful man who is in the process of becoming Catholic. We have always had a wonderful marriage, but since my husband has started the process of becoming Catholic, we have grown closer than I ever thought possible. This has also lead me to want to learn more about my faith and that has made my life so much more fulfilling. My problem is my in-laws. Long story short, I am step-mother to my husbands oldest son. He lives with us full-time and has since he was two. His biological mother shows no interest to him and calls/visits maybe twice a year (she lives 10 miles from us). My husband and I also have triplets. My husband revealed to me about 2 weeks ago that he wants to have a vasectomy reversal (based on the teachings of the church) and would like more children. We talked about it and both agreed that we want to have the reversal done.
Here is my problem. My in-laws are very critical of my husband becoming Catholic. They themselves have no faith to call their own, and basically think Catholics are weird. If I try to have an adult conversation about Catholics and our beliefs, they become very condescending, so I usually leave it alone. They have said things about our faith that are down right rude, and have a HUGE problem with us bringing my step-son into the church (even thought he loves church). They have said very mean things also about my husbands reversal and think we are selfish to want more children. I consider my husband and I to be very good parents who enjoy their children very much. We are also in a position financially to welcome more children. It has come to the point where I don’t even want to talk to them anymore. This makes me really sad because I really do care about them and love them. I try to be “Christianly” toward them, but they are just so critical of EVERYTHING we do now! How do I keep these people in my life and not go crazy?? My husband just basically tells me to ignore them, as he thinks his parents are the most negative people ever (luckily, he is the complete opposite) but these days I can do nothing right and get critized for everything. I don’t want to shut them out, but they are making it very diffucult to include in our lives…please give me advice