Hi! Well I’ve been here awhile so anyone who’s read my previous threads might now this by now…but in case you don’t: I’m 19 and converting to Catholcism (yay!) this april…I’ve been in RCIA since september and love it I grew up in a baptist family (mom’s a former catholic and almost became a nun) who has always had some trouble accepting my decision. But I love them and I know they love me…so I’ve tried to make this as easy as possible for them.
At 1st its wasn’t so good. Mom and Dad took turns accepting/not accepting the fact of my converting. Mom (who is a nurse and who anyone - myself included - would describe as the kindest, most caring person you’ve ever met) shocked me when she threatened to kick me out of the house. She apologized, it was just something she said out of anger. Dad, who generally allows me to make my own decisions, started acting very different…and actually became physically violent on a few occasions
To keep the stress level at home to a minimun…I kept going to my parents church for some time and still do on occasion…despite the pastor there, who publically humiliated me by telling the whole congragation I was “throwing away” my salvation. I sorta had to let it go…I’m more concerned about my family…
That all was a few months ago…and for quite some time now things seemed to be looking up I still went to Mass and RCIA, but it was never made a conversation topic at my house…which seemed to be for the best. However…lately my parents have been fighting more than they used to (they’ve been married 25 years and almost NEVER argue). Their arguments are causing my little siblings (age 16months and 5 months) to get very upset…and my other sister (age 17, who’s also my best friend) and I are trying to help where we can.
I overheard one argument in which Dad confessed that most of his stress is because of me and he’s not sure he loves me anymore. Obviously I never wanted to cause all of these problems for my family and I feel terrible. I love them all so much and believe that famlies should stick together no matter what…but right now mine seems to be falling apart and I can’t help but feel its partially my doing. Any advice to make things better…or anything, would be really appreciated!