For those that don’t know, I’m a Protestant learning about Catholicism and I must say I’m learning so much and cannot wait for my conversion. Its something about Catholicism that seems so true and it intrigues my soul and mind and I feel so at home.
I know this subject has been discussed a million times but I just need someone to confirm this for me.
But it seems like I’m going on and on lol so let me get to the point. I’m single and have been for practically and I have not been in any relationships at all my whole life. I have had beautiful women walk up to me and give me hints that they are interested but I dismiss their interest and move on.
I’m the kind of guy that looks for a women that wants to be with me for the rest of my life. Not a 3 month, 2 year, 4 year relationship of nothing but sinful acts in front of the Father.
I have had a troublesome time with pornography considering my raging hormones and my interest in women and my distorted view about the human body, period. But this book “Nudity & Christianity” by Jim C. Cunningham has changed my view and has developed a sour taste for me about porn in general. And had really has changed my view about the human body. I’m also reading Love & Responsibility by the late Pope John Paul II and I also picked up “Theology of the Body”. I’m so anxious to read those!
Now that my deliverance is progressing and my view with woman is changing, I’m still kind of confused about sex in general.
I have read some threads over the forums lately and I think I am getting a good understanding of sex after researching.
The Church teaches that sex is both procreative and unitive in the martial act.
Procreative meaning being open to new life.
Unitive meaning sex is meant to draw you closer to your partner and to stay with them.
I also know about NFP. It is used to help have a good understanding of your wife and to help space or plan out children.
But what I cannot get out of head is the sex that the media promotes. I think that’s called recreational sex meaning sex just to have fun but no real meaning whatsoever. I’m hooked on the view that sex pleases the women and you have to do it regularly in order for her to stay with you and to keep her wanting it more.
I know it sounds crazy but that’s the way I have been viewing sex and haven’t really learned any other view until now.
Condoms and birth control are forbidden because it defeats the whole purpose of the procreative and unitive and turns it into a selfish gratification way which is sick and twisted.
I think I’m on the right track so to sum up my question.
If and when you have kids and your practically done. Can you still have sex? But I have to be open to life and I have to end the act with me ejaculating in her.
Is this all correct?
Thanks in advance and God bless!