Quick background: I had a vasectomy several years ago after having three wonderful kids. My wife and I both decided we did not want more kids and agreed that this was the best option for us. We were both born/raised Catholic but while did not understand/follow the Catholic church's teachings on everything (obviously). I heard "Catholic Answers Live" on the radio a few times and have since been reading a lot more on what the Church teaches and why.
I've learned from these forums in the "Ask an apologist" section that I am not required to get my vasectomy reversed but simply confess that I had it and it is forgiven.
With that understanding, my first question is, Since I am no longer able to have "open to life" sex, do I still have to "finish" in my wife if she and I don't want to sometimes. I ask because no matter how/where it ends, I am unable to have open to life intercourse.
Sorry for the "adult" topic, I tried to word it as best I could as to not offend anyone.
Second question: Knowing now what the church teaches and why concerning contraceptives/vasectomy I know I should not have gotten one. I never understood the reasoning behind the rule and at the time I did not look into it. My issue is now that the vasectomy is done AND my knowledge of the Church teachings is more complete I still do not regret having it. I think given the choice again I would not have such an easy decision. I would pray on it a lot more and I think I would choose not to have it but bottom line is I'm still glad I can't have more kids. I recognize the selfishness in this and that it is not right. I feel like I'm doing something wrong because of this. I'm not sure that there is really an answer to this but I'm just looking for some other people's insight or opinions, especially if someone else has gone through this and felt similarly.