[quote="Murcury, post:1, topic:245740"]
I was mowing the lawn today and I thought about two questions (of course the fact that the Bishop was breaking my chops earlier and telling me to become a priest influenced these questions).
What do you priests/religious/etc do/did when you felt the want to have a spouse to spend your life with and confide with? How do you replace the want for a spouse with your vocation?
This one is just to anyone knowledgeable. Which type of priest (whether they be Diocesan or which Orders) are most involved in bringing the Cafeteria Catholics deeper into the Church and trying to build up the already established Church (instead of missionary work)?
I'm a seminarian, and I won't add too much to the above answer for #1. It was a good answer: to love someone with complete, self-giving love, to confide in them, to give up your own will for theirs, that is marriage, and it's very beautiful. But that is what the priest or religious does in His relationship with God. Is it difficult because you do not have a physical spouse? Sure. But giving yourself to such a true, deep and complete relationship with God is a greater love, and so fulfilling.
For #2, very good question. The diocesan priest certainly fits what you are looking for. The reason is this: his duty is first and foremost to his Bishop and his diocese, and particularly to his parish. Now, sure, there will be some involvement in RCIA to bring in converts, conversations with non-Catholic family members of parishioners, etc. But the priority of the diocesan priest is just what you said: to bring lax Catholics (which every parish is full of) into a deep, devout relationship with Christ and His Church.
For religious orders, the Dominicans were established to be learned men who could preach well and educate the ignorant Catholics. Much of the ministry of the Carmelite friars is to show the importance of deep, contemplative prayer to the average Catholic. I could list more, but here's the more important point. Many religious orders differ from one province, even one house, to the next. An order that typically teaches may do parish ministry in a certain area because of the need of the Church.
So, God bless you my brother for being open to the calling of God :-) If He wants you to live a life of celibate service to the Church, you will find true joy and fulfillment in that life. Trust me, it hasn't been easy, but when you are prayerful and trust in God's plan, it is so rewarding. As for finding your particular vocation, talk to your diocese's Vocations Director. Tell him about your desire to help "cafeteria Catholics" in particular, and ask about the life of a priest in your diocese, as well as religious orders that do this type of ministry. He will be more helpful than any advice from this forum :-) Keep praying and being open to His will, we need more young men like you to take this calling seriously and say "yes!" The Church needs saints in the world today more than ever, choose to be one of them and give your life completely to Christ!
Also, feel free to send me a message if you have any other questions or want to talk about this journey.
In the love of Christ and Mary,