Hi, I’m new here.
This week is, of course, Holy Week.
My family departs for a holiday over the Easter Break until ANZAC day on Good Friday. The day before we will pack the car, etc.
On Holy Thursday, one of the three churches in my Parish are celebrating Mass, bringing the whole community together. It begins at 7pm. Preceding the Mass is work, and I can get a bus straight there. I’m able also to get a bus home — though my mum refuses to let me catch a bus home, by myself, of a night. Nor am I allowed to rely on friends for a lift. My mum won’t come and pick me up after the Mass, either, because “we’ll be packing the car”. So I have no way of attending and getting home, which is greatly upsetting me. I ask a simple 10 minutes out of her time to come and pick me up, unfortunately she won’t. What am I to do?
Good Friday- we leave for the holiday, arriving in the afternoon. I have researched that there is a nearby Church. However, there is no guarantee that I am allowed to attend, for my parents might have plans. Again, deeply troubling. What am I to do?
Holy Saturday and Sunday we are in a different location and the nearest Church is 7km. However, we will be doing activities. I offered to walk to Mass, but my offer was declined.
I simply want to celebrate the Holiest days of the year, but I am unable…
I am very distressed at this, and I seek your counsel on what I can do instead, considering I cannot worship/mourn/celebrate with others.
Thank you most kindly in advance and God bless
jayphillip, I understand your distress.
Thank you for loving our Lord, and for wanting to participate in the liturgies of these most holy days of the year.
Have you calmly and respectfully explained to your parents why these liturgies are important to you?
Do your best to arrange to attend Easter Mass either on Saturday night or Sunday morning. However if you are a minor, or even if you’re a young adult subject to your parents’ care, you probably won’t be sinning if you can’t meet your Mass obligation this coming weekend. You can’t be expected to walk nearly nine miles round trip. Make sure you spend time alone reading the Scriptures and praying though. I advise you to phone a priest first thing in the morning to discuss this situation with him. He might be able to help you do some problem-solving, suggest ways to celebrate the Paschal Mystery if you cannot attend the liturgies, and/or provide some spiritual and emotional reinforcement.
As for taking the bus on Thursday night, if you’re a minor, you’re subject to your parents’ discipline. If you are 18 or older, you can calmly tell them you would like them to respect your adult decision to exercise your faith that evening, and that God is highest priority to you. But if there is going to be heated family strife over Holy Thursday Mass and Good Friday liturgy, bring a missalette with you, or prepare in advance the appropriate websites to link on to, and set aside some time to worship. Offer the pain of not being in church to our Lord.
Remain prayerful and loving during your journey of faith this week, no matter what, and celebrate and rejoice in the glory of our King!
Welcome to the CA forums, dear brother in Christ.
I will remember you in my prayers these next several days.