what I’ve always been taught is that “it’s a sin to refuse your spouse”
which I understand to a certain degree
but the way I learned it is a person could never say no, no matter what
is it seriously a mortal sin if a husband, for example, is too exhausted from work and says “not tonight”?
everything in my family works in the way where one person loses their temper to get what they want, so I havenot had too many positive models of true Christian marriage
and the closest thing I’ve ever had to a relationship was the same, he would lose this temper at me saying I did all kinds of things he didn’t like and when I asked what it was that specifically bothered him, wold get a response like “do you think I keep track of every irritating thing you do?”
I know the church teaches we shold comply with reasonable requests within marriage.
what’s considered reasonable? I’m not naturally a very intimate person so I think my ideas wold be a bit off. and of course, our current culture treat us all like sex-deprived crazed animals
could you guys help clarify? I’m sure I’m probably understanding it wrong, or have been told some questionable things