[quote="vera_dicere, post:4, topic:222094"]
I understand where you're coming from, OP. My mother had a miscarriage at about 12 weeks shortly after my parents adopted me. My mum had been very ill and so the doctors think there was nothign particularly wrong with baby, it was just my mum wasn't able to maintain the pregnancy. We've always considered this baby a boy, and part of the family, even with a name. I guess it helped my mum to greive, she's still a bit sad about it almost 30 years later.
But I do wonder about it, becasue chances are good if that baby had survived my younger sister might not have been adopted into our family and I would have never known her.
Its like anything in life that involves death, there are lots of questions and "what ifs" and its usually best to greive as you feel you need to and try and get beyond those "what ifs" questions, because all they seem to do is lead you to drown in wonders that really have no basis in reality.
I will meet my brother in Heaven and we will know each other then. I'm sure he watches over the family and prays for us, but really, thinkign about it beyond those interventions really will just mess you up in the head a bit.
I think the danger from that is minimal, unless you're an extremely obsessive person or something else is bothering you. As far as the "possible siblings," I find it a comforting thought, but like I said, once I get to Heaven, however things turn out with that won't matter as much as it seems to down here.;)
Yes, we can get to speculating on lots of things - like, if my grandma's first husband hadn't died in the 1918 Spanish Flu epidemic, likely she wouldn't have married my grandma, had my mom, and I wouldn't be here either. This is the sort of thing that writers of time travel stories find intriguing. But those kinds of stories are difficult to plot - my hat's off :tiphat: to a writer who can make the storyline work! Makes a fascinating book or movie when they can.:popcorn: