My brother was raised Catholic with the rest of my family, but he has never really committed himself to it. He has been in and out of a lot of trouble for his whole life. He is a sweet guy who would usually give the shirt off his back to you if you needed it, but he has a tendency get caught in the moment of things and make poor decisions. I have always loved him for who he is, faults and all.
He has recently begun making an effort to take himself and his son to Mass once a month. Its a start. I recently (and quite unintentionally) learned from my oldest brother that the brother I am writing about forced his wife to get an abortion about two years ago. The child was not his. He has not spoken to me about this, because he fears I would cut ties with him and be unable to forgive him. This is not the case. My heart breaks for him. What a horrible thing he has done! And it is eating at him. He regrets what he has done.
My question is in regards to his forming desire to return to our Faith. The catechism states that if one willfully procures, participates in or aids an abortion, they are excommunicated. I am deeply concerned for him, but feel it is improper to try and give him advice when I am not even supposed to know about the abortion. I am also wondering what steps would be necessary and proper for him to return to good standing with the Church.
All advice is welcome. And if you have a moment, please pray for my brother, and please pray for the soul of that sweet, innocent unborn baby who suffered such a grave injustice.