I have been thinking about your post, and I’m going to share a little bit more personal information than I originally intended:
You mentioned that you have two children. My wife and I went through a difficult time in our marriage, and it also happened when we had two children. We didn’t consider divorce, but I certainly felt that we had problems that needed to get better, for my sake, for my wife’s sake, and for the childrens’ sake.
We went to a Retrouvaille weekend, and that experience really set us on a better path. It acted as sort of a “reset” in our marriage, where each of us could begin to see how the other one was hurting, and how we could begin to take steps to make things better. Our marriage did not change overnight. We had ups and downs after that (and still do), and we sought out some additional help along the way. But our marriage started on a better path with that Retrouvaille weekend.
And more than that, our third child was conceived right after we returned from that weekend. All of our children are wonderful blessings, but because of the timing of his conception, I always think of our third child particularly as playing a special role in healing our marriage. (And he is the one who always notices when my wife and I kiss or display affection for each other, and he always tries to be the peacemaker if my wife and I have an argument. God works in mysterious ways.)