i posted a thread recently about her…
anyway, thought that i would update…might be a long post, sorry
Dad took her out to buy stationery, books, etc (her finals are approaching). They talked, not about the stuff Dad wants to hear-she was upset that she had to get almost all As, and then 4.0 GPA and so on, dad told her to not put pressure on her grades, DD got kind of annoyed. He asked about church, if she is interested in joining any group…she said no, she doesn’t like catholics in general.
dad asks why, she says they are generally bad people. he didn’t push the issue, dd says that she doesn’t understand why god has to be sexist, he tells her it isn’t, dd reassured that she still believes in God, but is not “keen” about being more involved, or hearing people out. Apparently to her, people are fond of sugarcoating things about the church. I personally get what she is trying to say, but I feel so :eek: because IMO the further she strays, the more questionable her behaviour might be.
they were supposed to have some pizza but dd is apparently on a diet, dad wanted to get home asap, so both arrived earlier to my dismay because that’s all they talked about, apparently. dad says it was all awkward and he isn’t willing to do it again
I did notice some strange behaviour IMO. there’s some sort of sad energy radiating from her. I don’t know what she’s sad about, but she has no energy to pick fights, she will just cuddle into the corner of the couch and use her phone.
Asked my son about it but he said that he doesn’t care. oh boys…
sister tried to bond (asked if they could paint her nails), dd gave her an annoyed look
as for the modesty issue I was talking about, I loosened up a little, allowed her to wear certain clothes (shorts, camisoles, etc) as long there is no cleavage or butt cheeks spilling out. She seems annoyed and kind of did the whole “whhyyyy but it’s comfortable” whine. Told her that she deserves guys to not look like her like she’s an object. She then calmly proceeded to tell me that “guys who respect women based on what they wear, aren’t the ‘good guys’ they think they are”, and that she doesn’t care about what guys think of her. I tried telling her exactly what I mean but she kind of brushed it off and asked me to give her some alone time. So…yes. No huge fights or anything but I feel like there’s something bothering her a break up? something in school?
did ask her about it but she brushed it off. did hear her crying a bit at night, but I was kind of wary about going in, didn’t want her to know that I saw her being all “vulnerable” or anything. Hope she’s ok
any scrap of advice will make me so grateful. I feel as if she hates me. Other daughter is also a teenager but she hardly gave me any stress, so I feel like there’s something really off with her, but at the same time I know there’s not much I can do about it.