Hi my friends on the forums.
Can anyone give an update about whether or not the laity is supposed to hold hands during the Our Father, and/or what about the laity extending hands in the air at that time or other times when the congregation is praying aloud during the Mass?
Please if you can, show rulings if possible, as there are so many opinions on this. I’ve sponsored a recent convert through RCIA and we both try our best to follow the rules/rubrics, etc. I’m a fairly new adult convert myself (since 2004) so I want to do the correct thing. Thank you!
Here are some differing opinions I’ve seen so far:
-The laity is not to hold hands during the Our Father. Ever.
-The laity is not to extend hands in the air while praying because that is for the Priest only. Even the Deacon does not extend his hands.
Opposite opinions I’ve seen:
-The Laity is free to either hold hands or not during the Our Father because there is no specific ruling on this.
-The Laity is free to extend their hands in the air during the Our Father to show unity.
-The Our Father is not the time for the laity to hold hands with others, OR extend their hands. The proper position is for the individual to have his/her hands held in prayer.
Other opinions-That vary widely:
-It is wrong for the laity to hold hands during the Our Father. That’s a custom that started in basement meetings of AA meetings in the 60’s. No one ever did this before.
-It depends, it’s colloquial, OK if everyone else is doing it, don’'t worry.
-The rules are unclear. Just follow the local Bishop’s ruling.
-Holding hands and extending hands is not Catholic, but Pentecostal. Don’t do it.
-Extending hands in the air is sacred, correct, and the traditional way of showing supplication and should be encouraged. Early Church approved of it.
-There’s no ruling on either of these either way.
-We should do everything as they do it Rome, including Receiving only on the tongue.
Please help on these to help alleviate the confusion!