[quote="whatevergirl, post:6, topic:178779"]
*Hi joan :wave: ...congratulations to you! I am hopeful things continue to go well in your marriage. I was concerned I admit, but seems like you are both lovingly working on things, which is awesome.:)
Question, did your husband's parents molest him? I only ask because if so, how on earth were they even given consideration in adopting his daughter? :confused: I might be confused on the details, but thought I'd ask. *
No, he was molested by a babysitter at four. The babysitter was the son of their landlord. They never reported it. He felt abandoned. This started a cycle of anger and there was some physical abuse with his Dad that later changed when his Dad changed. Back then his Dad was very much a different person. I have less of an issue - then his Mom kind of backlashed and became the overbearing narcissist in the house but she did it from a right wing religious side where she is always right and God is on her side. The whole thing is kind of sick.
I don't think what my dh did was right. I think it was the best thing he was able to do at the time from where he was at in his mind. If he was where he is now there would have been other avenues explored I'm sure.