URGENT! Prayers are needed for my mother!


#1

I am starting this thread for a personal reason: my mother, Mara, is since a week in hospital, in Belgium. She was admitted in emergency last week, wednesday night for a perforated ulcer.

She was operated, and fell into a septic shock (a mass infection, which depresses all vital parameters, and has a survival rate of 50 %). Until yesterday, in the morning things were seeming to work in her favour: she had sufficiently recovered to stop drugs that maintained her blood pressure (principal danger in a septic shock). She had even recovered conscience on Tuesday, 18 October, and could hold my hand, though she could not speak as yet.

The chaplain of the hospital could thus give her the anointing of the sick.

Wednesday, 19 October, I received a phone call from the hospital: my mother was being operated again in emergency because she started bleeding again in her intestine. We have thus been through an emotional roller-coaster drive through most of this day, her pressure having fallen this morning, and the physicians being rather pessimistic. This evening, as I visited my mother, she appeared to be slowly recovering, but the nursing team told me that she had suffered a second septic shock.

Amidst those news, I asked the question to which I dreaded to have the answer: had the medical team examined the possibility of a cancer of the intestine? The answer was positive… A biopsy (an examination of a piece of the intestine that was cut) was positive for a malignant tumour.

I need thus all the prayers I can get from everyone for the recovery of my mother (at the moment, the important is to get her out of her septic shock). I am going every evening to pray for her.

Could you all please keep Mara in your prayers?

Thanks from the bottom of my heart,

Marc


#2

Sure I will say a prayer for you and your mother.

God Bless

And try not to worry too much all things a possible with God

Kathleen


#3

Dear Jesus, Divine Physician and Healer of the sick, we turn to you in this time of illness. O dearest comforter of the troubled, alleviate our worry and sorrow with your gentle love, and grant us the grace and strength to accept this burden. Dear God, we place our worries in your hands. We place our sick under your care and humbly ask that you restore your servant to health again. Above all, grant us the grace to acknowledge your will and know that whatever you do, you do for the love of us. Amen.

My prayers are with you and your mother.

God Bless,

Vatican II


#4

Sure will pray for you and your Mom.


#5

Yes Marc, I will keep your mother Mara in my prayers. God bless you! Right now it is the hour of Divine Mercy, I will go pray a Chaplet for her. I will ask that you be given much peace too.


#6

Thanks to all of you for your prayers and your words of comfort.

I’ve just returned from visiting my mother, this evening, and she is stable - doctors are waiting for her to emerge of her shock state. She is presently under morphine.

For the time being, her situation seems to be under control - although it could evolve fastly in one sense or another.

Once again, thanks to all of you!

Marc


#7

praying


#8

Marc, I am praying for your mom. May God help her recover from the surgeries.


#9

[quote=Free Voice]I am starting this thread for a personal reason: my mother, Mara, is since a week in hospital, in Belgium. She was admitted in emergency last week, wednesday night for a perforated ulcer.

She was operated, and fell into a septic shock (a mass infection, which depresses all vital parameters, and has a survival rate of 50 %). Until yesterday, in the morning things were seeming to work in her favour: she had sufficiently recovered to stop drugs that maintained her blood pressure (principal danger in a septic shock). She had even recovered conscience on Tuesday, 18 October, and could hold my hand, though she could not speak as yet.

The chaplain of the hospital could thus give her the anointing of the sick.

Wednesday, 19 October, I received a phone call from the hospital: my mother was being operated again in emergency because she started bleeding again in her intestine. We have thus been through an emotional roller-coaster drive through most of this day, her pressure having fallen this morning, and the physicians being rather pessimistic. This evening, as I visited my mother, she appeared to be slowly recovering, but the nursing team told me that she had suffered a second septic shock.

Amidst those news, I asked the question to which I dreaded to have the answer: had the medical team examined the possibility of a cancer of the intestine? The answer was positive… A biopsy (an examination of a piece of the intestine that was cut) was positive for a malignant tumour.

I need thus all the prayers I can get from everyone for the recovery of my mother (at the moment, the important is to get her out of her septic shock). I am going every evening to pray for her.

Could you all please keep Mara in your prayers?

Thanks from the bottom of my heart,

Marc
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Certainly. Your Mom is in our prayers and also your family.

God Bless,
MaggieO


#10

[quote=Free Voice]I am starting this thread for a personal reason: my mother, Mara, is since a week in hospital, in Belgium. She was admitted in emergency last week, wednesday night for a perforated ulcer.

She was operated, and fell into a septic shock (a mass infection, which depresses all vital parameters, and has a survival rate of 50 %). Until yesterday, in the morning things were seeming to work in her favour: she had sufficiently recovered to stop drugs that maintained her blood pressure (principal danger in a septic shock). She had even recovered conscience on Tuesday, 18 October, and could hold my hand, though she could not speak as yet.

The chaplain of the hospital could thus give her the anointing of the sick.

Wednesday, 19 October, I received a phone call from the hospital: my mother was being operated again in emergency because she started bleeding again in her intestine. We have thus been through an emotional roller-coaster drive through most of this day, her pressure having fallen this morning, and the physicians being rather pessimistic. This evening, as I visited my mother, she appeared to be slowly recovering, but the nursing team told me that she had suffered a second septic shock.

Amidst those news, I asked the question to which I dreaded to have the answer: had the medical team examined the possibility of a cancer of the intestine? The answer was positive… A biopsy (an examination of a piece of the intestine that was cut) was positive for a malignant tumour.

I need thus all the prayers I can get from everyone for the recovery of my mother (at the moment, the important is to get her out of her septic shock). I am going every evening to pray for her.

Could you all please keep Mara in your prayers?

Thanks from the bottom of my heart,

Marc
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I’m praying for you and your Mother
God Bless!


#11

:gopray: :gopray: :gopray: I have prayed, & will pray. God bless.


#12

Prayers sent. Please keep us updated. God bless you.


#13

Prayers sent. Keep us informed.


#14

Once again, thanks for your support. My father and me, we are truly touched by your prayers and your kind words of support. And of course, I will keep you posted regularly.

I do say the rosary every evening, near to the bed of my mother.

The latest news (as of yesterday evening) is that she is always stable, but that the physicians have been able to lower the vasopressor drugs (drugs to maintain blood pressure) a little bit - which in itself is the only good news. My mother’s heart is keeping strong, but she is still suffering of an acute renal failure - and thus she has to undergo a permanent dialysis (purification of the blood by a machine).

The chaplain of the hospital came yesterday again at my request. However, he does not seem to believe as much as I do in the power of prayers for healing: “prayers is not something magic”. Right. But it is also there to ask graces, and I have too often witnessed the power of the Spirit in the lives of our family to deny the power of praying. The chaplain also added that he had given my mother the anointing of the sick “more for [my] father than for her” - an expression which betrays a certain misunderstanding of the function of that sacrament for sick people…

Turning back to the medical aspect: the next big question is whether the intestine of my mother will not suffer another perforation within the next days or weeks, before the physicians can finally tackle it. In fact, another perforation (and the septic shock associated) might cost her life - without much hope this time.

Once again, thanks to all of you!

Marc


#15

Praying still Marc,

God has a plan for good, even when it seems impossible.
God Bless,
Maggieo


#16

I shall remember your mom in prayer all through the day.

God Bless your mom, you and your family.

Mom of 5


#17

I am keeping her in my prayers , and you and your family as well. Be strong!


#18

We will be praying for you, and for God’s will in all things.


#19

God bless you Marc. I too am praying for your mom and dad.


#20

Dear friends, thank you for your words of encouragement and your prayers.

Alas! I had wished to give you some encouraging news, but there aren’t any. My mother still has her kidneys blocked, and her heart has started weakening - she had arythmia. And, last week, a nurse started putting to me the possibility of taking an order of NTBR (Not To Be Ressucitated), a common practice within medical milieus for people of a certain age. The nurse used an apocalyptical description of my mother dying in awful pain from her cancer to elicit an answer, which I am sure, she hoped to be that of interruption of care. She compounded her description by adding that my mother would never be again the same - what does it matter? What made it worse was that the nurse told me that she was Catholic too, and that the Church does not say what you must do! That might be the special interpretation of Belgian Catholics…

I answered by directing the physicians to do all they could to maintain my mother in life the longer possible, and to do their utmost for her, until all hope was definitively lost. I do take, indeed, some distance with the position of the church on “futile” care. My bioethical training enabled me to recognise the very words we were trained to pronounce to investigate the intentions of the family in patients in the end of life.

Belgium is a terrible country, where parents give life to children, and the children must give death to their parents…

However, my mother is not bettering and I am starting to wonder if I am only watching a long agony, or if she will, eventually, recover. I hope and pray with all my forces for the latter.


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