This thread itself seems a little hypocritical. It seems like a lot of people have been spending time judging people for judging people.
First, let’s keep in mind that Jesus did not mean that no judgement should ever be used. You are allowed to judge actions and see if they are objectively sinful. You are not allowed to judge the state of someone’s soul. I haven’t actually seen much of the latter on this forum, and by and large I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, so that if they don’t actually say that someone is going to Hell, I don’t assume that they mean that someone is going to Hell, just because they have made a harsh objective judgement of a particular behavior.
The other thing to keep in mind is that not everyone who asks questions that you consider “silly” is actually asking a silly question. Some people have consciences which, toward themselves, are more sensitive than others’. Here are some possibilities, some of which have already been mentioned, but not all. Say someone starts a thread asking if it is sinful for him to get a tattoo.
*]The person could be a troll.
*]The person could be scrupuous, meaning that he has a consciousness of sin that is unreasonable and inconsistent with the reality of the state of his soul.
*]The person could be showing off.
*]The person could genuinely have a greater consciousness of sin because the person is on the way to being a saint.
*]The person could genuinely have higher standards for his own behavior because he has been blessed not to be as tempted by serious sin, so God is holding him to a higher standard. It’s not that the person is particularly saintly, but that he is particularly fortunate.
*]The person could have received advice from someone who said tattoos are wrong for everyone, and they’re checking it out.
The answer to “Is it sinful for me to get a tattoo” may not end up being the same as the answer to “Is it sinful to get a tattoo.” If he is asking the question, it is unreasonable to assume (without further data) any particular one of the reasons above. It’s also kind of mean to call the question “silly” in case it is reason 2 or 6. (If it’s reason 4 or possibly 5 as well, they are probably humble enough not to mind being called silly inaccurately.)
If you find that every thread turns into an argument, I have to say that it has not been my experience. There are a few things that I can think of offhand that might contribute to our very different experience of this forum.
*]We may have different ideas of what constitutes an argument rather than a discussion.
*]We may hang out in different fora.
*]When I start reading a thread that looks to be (what I would consider) an argument, I just stop reading it, and put it out of my mind. My memory’s never been all that great even for stuff I am trying to remember, so putting negative threads out of my mind is probably a lot easier for me than most people.
*]Generally, most (not all!) of the time, I try to post on relatively new threads, or at least when I start posting they are relatively new.
*]For every five posts that I actually post, there are probably at least two posts that I write, think about for a while, and then decide not to post because I can’t think how to say what I mean without insulting someone, or because the conversation is bound to deteriorate into a wrangle that I don’t want to be a part of, or my position is based on emotion rather than fact, which makes it irrelevant for a particular thread (not all of them!), or some other reason like that.
*]I don’t subscribe to a lot of threads that I have no intention of posting in. (I read the beginnings of lots of threads without posting in them, but I don’t watch the ongoing discussion.) If you are part of the discussion and it is borderline, sometimes you can try to help it remain a discussion rather than an argument.
Anyway, it works for me. The one thing I wanted to investigate is the possibility of #1. Do you think this thread is thus far an argument? If so, what kind of discussions are you expecting? Discussions where everyone agrees about everything are, in my experience, both boring and short.
Why do you read threads about subjects you consider silly, anyway? I mean, if the title of the thread is “Should I get a tattoo” why would you even look at it? If you feel that all of the questions in the Moral Theology forum are like that, why don’t you just stop looking at the forum, rather than getting upset about it? I’m not trying to be sarcastic or harsh, I really am wondering seriously. I don’t read threads that don’t look interesting to me, and I wouldn’t spend a lot of time in a forum where the threads didn’t interest me. We are obviously very different so I am trying to understand.