I’ve posted here before about my wife’s annulment due to lack of due discretion for her last “marriage”. As a convert to Catholicism (grew up Lutheran), and a case of scruples developed out of a fear of going to Hell by studying the Catholic faith (and simply having too much information and not enough proper discernment or guidance) and of learning all the things I was doing wrong, I am now again questioning the annulment.
The CC has officially annulled her previous marriage on such grounds, and I have been reassured by CAF members, as well as my parish priest, that if the CC and the tribunals presented official papers, that I have nothing to worry about and am not living is sin via adultery. Of course, the whole “bound on earth, bound in Heaven, loosed on earth, loosed in Heaven” and “keys to the church” have been discussed, along with other things to reassure me I have nothing to worry about.
But for whatever reason, I cannot seem to come to peace with it. I’ve been told that the Catholic faith is in its truest form the fullness of faith, and I cannot choose to believe most of it, parts of it, etc., all of it is applicable whether I come to terms with it or not. Therefore, the marriage is annulled.
I’ve pulled back out her papers to read them to try and find reassurance that, yes, there is no way this was valid. I’ve looked online and found an article from a search “Catholic lack of due discretion” from the Santa Fe Archdiocese. It seems to describe my wife’s situation. It also has case samples… and it got me to thinking…:
What if one were to marry another and not have due discretion but thus never got an annulment, basically they stayed together for life (until death). Their lack of due discretion would make the marriage invalid. If these two were never validly married because of such, but simply stayed together, would not these two be living in sin?