I have a follow up question regarding today's Q and A with the apologist...and hope this is the correct place to post it, since we cannot comment directly on the Answers.
** Re: If a husband chooses to get a vasectomy, how does it effect the salvation of his wife when she protested his decision?**
It doesn't. The bad actions of one person cannot effect the salvation of another. In a situation where the wife did not agree with the husband's decision and even, as you said, protested it means that the sin is the husband's and not the wife's. The wife has done nothing wrong and her salvation is not affected.
My follow-up question is this:
In many threads, people have said that the church teaches that you should not appear to "support" or "condone" someone else sinning because that in itself is a sin or a grave matter.
For example, if a parent's daughter who is gay is getting married to her same-sex partner--not only should the parent not attend the service but they should not attend any celebratory parties related to the occasion...because this would be in "support" of the sin.
This is what I have read here by posters and apologists, as I understand it.
So is it the same in this vasectomy situation?
Should the wife discontinue having marital relations with a husband who is not open to life and is treating sex with her as just "lust"?
Each time he has sex with her, he is sinning (I assume?)...he is "using" contraception--and it's worse than condoms or pills, it's permanent. He has permanently disfigured a part of himself meant for procreation.
It seems that if the wife takes part in the sex act, she is condoning and supporting his "sin" by her actions...she becomes part of it...as a mother would by attending her daughter's gay marriage.