I “got cut” six years ago and I regret it to no end. I feel compelled to write about my experience because if I can connect with one guy or one gal who’s husband is considering it and convince him to stop then this post is worth it.
STOP RIGHT HERE IF YOU THINK YOU REALLY DON’T WANT TO HEAR THE TRUTH!
My wife and I thought it would be a great idea. It would mean lots of fun sex whenever we wanted it. No more limits of NFP A sexual free-for-all. It was going to spice up our sex life and draw us closer. Well, I’ve got news for you–WRONG!!!
WRONG WRONG WRONG in so many ways. It seemed so clear, so right. We prayed about it. What we didn’t do was seek the advice of a solid Priest or a lay person devoted to the church. There’s a reason the church says it’s a mortal sin. I don’t need a lecture or to read anything about it. Expo-facto, simply being honest with one’s self is all you need to understand. It becomes obvious as you lie in the waste left by Satan’s lies. That’s all a “V” is-one big Satanic lie. I give exception to valid one’s which are very rare(like abortion).
Reality check–it almost tore our marriage apart. The sex early on was just what we had hoped for but then… The doors to all kinds of stuff flew wide open. We didn’t need to pay attention to fertility cycles since the life-giving aspect of sex was now gone. We no longer needed to communicate about our bodies or how we were feeling or what we were thinking at that moment. If we were in the mood, we did it-even if only one person was in the mood-still game on. It didn’t take long for sex to become just another activity. It turned into “Hmmm-what do I want to do now, go for a walk? play tennis? play cards? or #$% my wife.” That’s it-plain and simple. not only did that part of my body get cut but a part of my soul and part of my brain did to. The beautiful, God-created conjugal act deteriorated into nothing more than f%@&n. Sorry to use such strong language here but this is just that serious of a matter and such language is necessary .
Another door that flew wide open was the one that allowed for an affair. Of course I got caught. It was fun and what the heck-it was just an activity. It wasn’t even intercourse any more-it was just that “f” word. Getting cut numbs a man to the reality that his purpose to to assist in the creation of a new human life. Without the life-giving element, sex at home became boring. Since my wife was now an object of my pleasure, she became like any other object a person uses-get bored with it, go get a new one-the latest and greatest version.
Getting cut opens the door to things you can’t imagine. Your are probably reading this thinking “what an idiot-that won’t happen to me”. I thought I felt in the deepest part of my being that it would never happen to me either.
Vasectomy, subconsciously, distorts a man’s view of women over time. Sex is no longer open to life therefore you don’t even need contraception which leads to objectivcation of women which opens the door to affairs. I won’t even start on how porn comes into play here because that really makes things messy.
IF YOU WANT PROBLEMS-GET CUT! YOU WILL HAVE MORE PROBLEMS THAN YOU CAN EVER IMAGINE.
DON’T DO IT! DON’T DO IT! DON’T DO IT! NO MATTER HOW RIGHT IT SEEMS-DON’T DO IT! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DON’T DO IT!
Praise be to Jesus for giving my wife the strengh to stand by my side. Things are good now. I’ve changed my view on sex. I’ve had to force myself to change. It’s been hard but worth it. Once I realized that my wife is one of the only persons in this world who truely cares about my soul, I began to look at her in a new light. We are lucky. Don’t tempt fate. It’s like drinking and driving-you may survive or you may destroy many lives.
Oh-and why it’s the “male abortion”? You think I don’t regret it? How do you think I feel now when I hear of other guys talking about wanting to have kids? Like a woman who is honest with herself after an abortion, I too realize that something has been destroyed forever. THINK ABOUT IT then don’t. God bless!