[quote="Joe_5859, post:10, topic:329509"]
It makes me shudder, too, whenever I see the phrase "contraceptive mentality" in one of the NFP threads. :p Perhaps it is theoretically possible to do such a thing, but I have never come across any practitioners of NFP who fit that bill.
Mfrances is probably right that they mean well. People see something that concerns them and they want to share their concern.
It's not just with NFP threads, though, that people give way more specific advice than can be given based on the limited info a poster divulges.
I'm sure there are plenty of people who postpone pregnancy for reasons that are "not good enough." But I sure don't want to go there. It's usually tangential to the question the person is asking, anyway, and going down that road derails the thread more often than not (not to mention it usually offends the person and turns them off from any legitimate points being made). I do not expect that a poster is going to share the full extent of their personal issues/reasons on CAF in order for me to offer an accurate assessment. So I try to just take people at their word. If something needs to be said*, I would qualify it with "If this is your *only** reason...."
But, yeah, quibbling over what posters think are good enough reasons to postpone pregnancy seldom takes a thread in fruitful directions.
And also phrase it so that you are not telling them that their reasons are selfish, but asking them to perhaps re-examine whether or not their motives are selfish. In fact, I think that is a very good thing for people to do, remind others to carefully examine their motives. But that is a very different thing from claiming that the other person's motives are actually selfish.