Just need to vent have not done that for a very long time. Not sure if anybody remembers me as I have not posted in a while.
Have you ever felt that you think you are moving baby steps forward but giant steps backwards. My ex drivers me insane. He does such funny things and does not realise what he is doing in front of the kids. We have been separated for 2 years and divorced 1 year (he divorced me) anyway he is living with his mistress who was 19 year old when they met she is about 21years old now and they have a 2 year old child together.
He is such a liar he saw a old school friend and told her that we were not together becoz we were not getting along which is not true the reason we were not together is becoz he cheated on our 13 year marriage with a 19 year old drug addict. So proud to talk about the 2 year old that he has but not about his legal/legitimate 2 kids from marriage. He pays maintenance when he feels like it and takes the kids for weekends when he feels like it. I cannot stop him from taking the kids becoz they want to go and see him. But him and Madam don’t think about what they are talking about in front the kids. He forgets that he is a 36 year old man he carries on like a 19 year old and even dresses like one.
His sister got married this weekend that went past my 7 year old daughter went becoz she was a flowergirl in the wedding but he 10 year old boy stayed becoz he was writing tests at school so he could not go. And this wedding is in our hometown which is 6 hours away. He took this girl to meet his family and guess what she was so welcomed in the family. It was as if nothing happened it was if this girl never caused the breakup of a marriage they even slept in a room together and they are not married. At first the family was saying before they met her that the child does not look like him all of a sudden the child looks like one of his sisters kids. The mother never spoke to him and asked him why is he not a part of his kids life. It was as if I never existed like I was never a part of this family.
Now this girl was talking on the phone in front of my 7 year old daughter telling her sister on the phone that she is now a part of the family. And that she will be getting married. Now my child is looking so hurt and confused. My ex never wanted to me to wear makeup for this young girl he buys all that. He had money to buy this girl and the child expensive outfits but not enough money to pay the maintenance for the month. He did not buy anything for the kids knowing that it is cold. To top it all off my daughters luggage was left behind and he, girlfriend and child’ luggage was not left behind. He brings the child back without her bag.
I felt that, that was so irresponsible that my childs luggage was not important to him and that it was so irresponsible of him to do that. It was if it was not important to him. And his mother should have checked to make sure that they child had all her stuff. And my ex mother-in-law has a nerve to say that her son is not irresponsible forgetting that for months and months he has not paid child support (maintenance). Is that not irresponsible.
Am I correct in not wanting my kids to be a part of my ex family. Am I wrong in thinking that they are backstabbers.