Congratulations that they are using the honorific at all.
I say, call her by whatever she prefers – Ms or Mrs. **JOHNSON. **If she says she prefers being called “Miss Julie” ask her if would mind if your children called her “Ms. Johnson” since everywhere else they go, they refer to adults as “Mr. Jones” and “Mrs/Ms Smith”.
**Well, I don’t ask if they would mind, and if there is trouble or discomfort over it I simply explain that I am in no way, shape, or form trying to make them uncomfortable, but I am raising my children to have respect and manners. Being that raising children requires “following through” I can’t make many exceptions to the rule. This is usually how it goes:
“Eden, Shane, Pip, Dash, this is Mrs. Johnson.”
“Oh no call me Julie, Mrs. Johnson is my mother-in-law, or in case of the maiden namers: my mother.”
“I’m sorry but they can’t call you Julie. I am raising them to be polite and to refer to adults by their proper name. It establishes respect and manners. I feel it’s a great tool for them to have. I’m sorry if you are uncomfortable, but I really need them to do this.” If a person has a really difficult last name, and that person says they can call me “Mr. A” I let that slide, Mr. A is ok on a difficult one. **
I’m staying tuned. A lot of “younger” people are excruciatingly uncomfortable with anything that smacks of formality.
That’s exactly what I am trying to avoid.
What REALLY BOTHERS ME is when said women who argue my rules introduce me as KC. Usually I avoid it by introducing myself as Mrs. Smith BEFORE they get a chance to do so. If a child refers to me as KC I’ll correct them with “I am Mrs. Smith, please call me by my proper name sweetie.” Then they, the mothers do stuff like “give that to KC” or “don’t step on KC’s hand.” :mad: I guess that’s their way of getting back at me for making my kids refer to them properly. We are talking about their toddlers though. :shrug: I won’t respond to other people’s children, outside of family, who call me “KC.” Most kid’s don’t have a problem with it, the one’s who come over and play with my kids, just friends. You would be surprised HOW many children are just fine with politeness, or calling me Mrs. Smith. Nobody has asked them to be polite before. Except maybe at school.
So do your kids call their priest, “Father Billy?” LOL
**Well, my hands are tied on that one. Three of our priests go by Father First-Name, and they spend time at the school, with the kids, etc. Being they are the priests I don’t get to change that one up. Besides Father Jon has a difficult last name, so I just let it lie. **