I have a very complicated situation that I’m seeking advice for, biblically speaking.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years.
We met online over 3 years ago, and are from different countries (Ireland and US).
Yes before anyone asks, We are both young ADULTS, and we have carried our relationship on to “real life” (lol).
We had plans for us to start our lives together fully in June 2009 and move out together, and possibly even get married. We almost got Married a few weeks ago actually but that’s another story.
His Mother is an issue. His Mother has never been accepting of our relationship and since she’s known about us, she’s played countless mind games trying to manipulate my boyfriend, and has put him in many situations of where he’s made to feel bad etc because of her selfishness.
In a nutshell, She doesn’t ever want him leaving Ireland.
She’s went as far to say that if he leaves and comes to me then she will consider their relationship dead.
She’s never even met me, and she’s hated me since she’s known about me.
Well, like I said we were suppose to move out together in June, but she had other plans.
She duped my boyfriend into believing that there was no way he could come here and work, because of citizenship issues, and because he needed a college degree to get any kind of a decent job etc.
So she basically forced him to go to College, and now he’s enrolled in School for 3 years.
I realize that Citizenship is an issue, but he knows that I would NEVER expect him to come to me unless he were able to work and be considered a permanent resident and could apply for Citizenship.
This whole situation has me extremely stressed, and depressed at times.
I’m constantly Jealous because of Females attempting to get his Attention at College, and I’m here unable to do anything about it. I trust him, but I can’t help but be jealous.
I’m sure anyone would be Jealous in my situation.
I’m not sure what to do.
I really love him, we love each other more than anything and both want to be together but thanks mainly to his family, we’re stuck apart for at least 3 years.
We visit each other, and talk every day, but that’s not the point.
I want to be with him now, and he wants to be with me too.
But once again, he feels that he needs to get a College Degree in order to get any kind of a job here. Anytime we argue and I mention him coming here he says “Dont you want me to do anything with my life” or “I don’t want to work at McDonalds for my entire life”.
He never wanted to go to School until his Mother started her mind games.
I realize he loves her, and I’m glad her does. To me what would be perfect would be if all of our families lived close to each other, and got along.
I’m just not sure what to do.
Religiously speaking what is the right thing for us both to do?
Should I present him with an option to choose either be with me or take a path without me?
Thanks for taking the time to read this