I posted in another thread about my issues with crossdressing, and I’d like to use this thread to be able to discuss views on that.
For me personally, this has been my history with the issue (skip the grey stuff if you don’t wanna read it, it’s not necessary to discuss it):
10 or so years ago (I’m currently 17), there was one day where my siblings and I were playing around and dressing in our parents’ clothes, and I got into my mom’s clothing. A while after that, I started crossdressing behind my parents’ back. I thought that it was wrong, so I made a promise to myself and to God that I wouldn’t dress in women’s clothing again (I know now that Jesus tells us not to make vows at all). A few weeks later, I gave in to temptation and did it again; I again decided it was wrong and reestablished my promise; it hasn’t been broken at all since then. (My parents know now about the issue; I know nothing about their moral stance on it.)
It completely disappeared as part of my life, but last year, something triggered a desire to crossdress again; nothing that would lead me to do it, but it began to occupy my mind. I fell into these times that I’d look up pictures of the clothes that I’d like to wear; as of now, that’s pretty much stopped completely. More recently, the issue has been the temptation to look at people I see around wearing those clothes, but the Lord has helped me to fight my temptation (and actually dressing definitely won’t happen anytime soon).
I’d like for it to not be a sexual desire for me, as I don’t think I have any desire to do anything sexual, but I get aroused a little when the situation comes up. For the record, I’m not homosexual; I’m either heterosexual or asexual, so there’s nothing homosexual in my desire. I also definitely don’t want to change my sex; I’m happy with the body God has given me.
Anyway, as much as I could talk about the personal side of the issue, it’s become such a small thing in terms of how much I’ve had to deal with the problem lately, but it’s the morality of it that’s been wracking my brain for quite a while. My current stance is that I don’t think it’d be immoral if it wasn’t sexual, wasn’t done to pass as the other sex, and didn’t interfere with a person’s relationship with the Lord. This opinion is open to change, and that’s a big part of why I’m posting this thread.
So with that aside, here’s what I’ve learned so far:
*]One Biblical passage references crossdressing-- Deuteronomy 22:5, “A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does this.” (NIV) Any other biblical passages on anything like this, especially from the New Testament, would be very helpful.
*]The issue itself has no connection to homosexuality in most cases; most crossdressers are heterosexual.
*]We are called to never let worldly things be above those that are spiritual; if a desire comes between a person and God, it isn’t beneficial.
*]This is taken from post #65 in this thread from a few years ago: “Crossdressing is considered a sin for primarily two reasons. First, it is conducive to public scandal. Secondly, there is often sexual dimension to crossdressing and if this is the case, the Catholic Church has been clear on its sexual morality.”
*]We are not to completely present us as something we’re not; this means trying to pass as the opposite sex is immoral.
On number 1, I’ve heard various things about this verse, but I don’t know for sure which of these apply or are true:
*]Saying that God “detests” something means it is a moral law that still applies in our time.
*]Clothing was drastically different in these times, and there was close to no actual difference in clothing.
*]The passage refers not to crossdressing, but to warriors wearing that of traditional women’s clothing, and vice versa; “man” in the original language referred to warriors every time that specific term was used (I don’t have this source right now, but I can find it if anyone needs it).
*]The passage refers not to crossdressing, but to reversing sex roles (this one is from the Life Application Study Bible for the New Living Testament version of the Bible, I’ll provide a link if asked, but the post’d be too long to go through if I put it in now).
*]These words are from St. Thomas Aquinas, when discussing Joan of Arc’s canonization: “Outward apparel should be consistent with the state of the person according to general custom. Hence it is in itself sinful for a woman to wear man’s clothes, or vice-versa; especially since this may be the cause of sensuous pleasure; and it is expressly forbidden in the Law (Deut 22). Nevertheless this may be done at times on account of some necessity, either in order to hide oneself from enemies, or through lack of other clothes, or for some other such reason.”
It’s definitely clear that the above ideas don’t all agree, so I’d like to have discussion on that as a particular, but also on the nature of it in general.
The reason I say that is because if a person crossdresses for no sexual pleasure and without wanting to be the other sex, I’m not sure what reason there would be to disallow it as long as it doesn’t interfere with the person’s relationship with the Lord.
In my case, I wouldn’t be able to do it again unless I somehow nullified my promise with God, eliminated the sexual aspect that comes from my experience with this problem, cleared up the morality of it, and made sure it didn’t interfere with my relationship with the Lord. Most likely not happening.
But I’d like to open up the floor on the topic with this information, and hear what others have to say. Thanks in advance!~