My fiance and I have both and still are waiting for marriage to have sex. So there are guys out there who are virgins and who take the Church teachings seriously. And not all those guys are virgins because no one would want them :rolleyes: My fiance is a hockey player, and growing up in that type of environment it’s quite common for girls to throw themselves at the guys (quite attractive don’t you think? note the sarcasm) But for some guys chastity and following Jesus is more important than a bit of instant gratification.
Do I worry that he has no sexual experience? No, quite the opposite. I’ve actually had other girls as me that. I haven’t had any experience either. I think it’s wonderful that we’ll learn together. But for us, having been together so far for 5 years, our relationship is built on so much more than sex. What if he’s not good or I’m not good? Pft, why worry about that? When there’s more to our relationship than sex we can work through it. It’s sad that some worry about a guy lasting or whatnot. I feel bad for those who see that as a deal breaker. Someone’s faith, values and intellect mean more than some minutes of sex.
Anyways… that was a bit of a tangent, but I get sick of seeing people acting like not waiting for sex is so grand. I’m waiting and I feel like we’re better off.
Back on track, I don’t think you should set your standards low. But, if for whatever reason God puts a man in your life that has recommitted himself to chastity then I think you should discern why God put him into your life. I think the key here is trusting in God. It can be hard, I know it can, but if you trust in God it will work out. Perhaps you aren’t meant to meet someone until later in life. Really only God knows. Perhaps you’ll meet another virgin, which is great. Or perhaps God will call you to meet someone who has had a less than desirable past. But it’s how they act now that matters.
Hang in there, I’m a firm believer that God brings good to those who listen to Him.