[quote="tafan, post:5, topic:254288"]
As someone who has a larger family, I can say two things, both you probably know. Every kids gets a little cheaper than the previous one (this goes out the window when college comes around, but there are other solutions for that). The other thing is, 5 kids on 40K a year has to be a big struggle.
It is not selfish ever to want more children. I can imagine your protestant friends think you are crazy. At least with us, they just wrote off the craziness to us being Catholics our whole life. But as your kids grow up, and you have such a strong and loving family (this tends to happen in large families, as they take care of each other so much); all of your protestant friends will look at your family in awe. A neighbor of ours paid me the best compliment a month ago I could imagine. They had two kids, who spent a lot of time at our house. She said everything her kids learned about being in a good famly, came from being at our house. Now, they are wonderful people, so she was being overlly nice; but it is still ncie to hear.
I will pray. You will figure it out if your pray a lot about it.
[quote="heart4home, post:7, topic:254288"]
We have a large family. (9 children). My best advice to you is to take it one child at a time. By the time you get pregnant have a child, presumedly nurse that child, have your fertility return, so much may have changed in your lives. You don't know what God has in store for you or your dh's career(potential raises etc.)
A good budget, wise shopping, and lots of prayer and "one chld at a time"!
:thumbsup: ( I liked others too, like krista's but I thought I would just quote two... haha I agree with Missy, we need a like button on CAF).
I wanted to add that I do not agree that it is selfish for families that are tight economically, or downright poor, to be open to receive more blessings. Here is something Pope Pius XII said:
Pope Pius XII
An Address to the Directors of the Associations for Large Families of Rome and of Italy January 20, 1958
...But God also visits large families with His Providence, and parents, especially those who are poor, give clear testimony to this by resting all their trust in Him when human efforts are not enough. A trust that has a solid foundation and is not in vain! Providence — to put it in human words and ideas — is not a sum total of exceptional acts of divine pity; it is the ordinary result of harmonious activity on the part of the infinite wisdom, goodness and omnipotence of the Creator. ....
BTW, this doesn't mean we are off the hook for trying to do our best and provide the best we can for our family, but in conjunction with that, we need to trust also.
A couple can look at their own circumstances and prayerfully discern what to do for their family, but I disagree with assuming that adding a new member to an economically tight family is selfish. Trying to create your own baby using artificial means is selfish, lovingly accepting and raising a new blessing from God, when He sends the child to you, a loving family, is not. Precisely the fact that children aren't goods or property is what makes a difference. Adding a child to a family is very different from adding a new car or a fancier home.