Welcome to CAF, cream78. I hope you find the answers you seek.
I have nothing to offer in that regard, except prayers, which will be offered up for your friend – and you, as well.
P.S.: I don’t know if this will be of help, but I found this myspace site of a young woman – 41 is young to me – who has had several ups and downs on her journey, but has been touched by our Lord. One of the things she had to confront was same-sex attraction and, if you were to contact her, perhaps she could offer some advice. I don’t know her, but she was courageous enough to publicly share this as part of her testimony, so I think she would be helpful.
This site is very well-put-together, as the woman is very, very creative. However, there are aspects to her story and some visuals she used that would not be suitable for, uh, “younger viewers.” And be patient with the site – there are a lot of visuals to load and it takes my “vintage” 'puter a while to load the site, but it’s worth it. Again, God bless.