About a month ago, based on the scripture passage of Ez 33, 7-9, the priest where I went to mass in his homily talked about our responsibility for other people.
That is the passage where it says: “If you do not speak out to dissuade the wicked from his way, the wicked shall die for his guilt, but I will hold you responsible for his death.” The priest spoke about how we are responsible for those around us (for example, our children, but I think not limited to them).
This made me think as I know a lot of people who… well, don’t live by Catholic rules or values.
It made me feel like ahving to talk to them immediately.
The question of the right timing of course arises here.
Present situation: Somehow, over the internet, getting closer again with somebody living far away. I think this person may live with somebody without being married. But to spoil the getting closer again by, out of nowhere, saying/mailing something like: “By the way, you are in a relationship, right? You should not live together if you are not married”… it would feel very wrong and might be taken the wrong way.
So I let it be for now.
But since we live far away from each other, how can I somehow get a chance to say something? Maybe I’d have to wait until we will see each other… but that is months away. And who knows if the topic will come up.
What if by any chance I or this person dies before I get the chance?
Then I will be responsible?
And this is just one example.
I have often been in this dilemma. Sometimes saying something, even risking being taken the wrong way or insulting somebody. But I am not sure if that is good if it is said at an awkward moment (for example, if somebody has just helped me a lot, and then out of nowhere I am supposed to suddenly say something like this? This is really difficult. I thought and thought about how to put it, maybe put it like a joke… but it just still felt like the wrong moment).
So the maybe ethical maybe moral maybe philosophical question would be: Can we risk waiting for the right moment???