Oh my brother, I am freaking out!
Ok, here’s the deal.
My friend has been away from the Church for 10+ years but recently she started dating this SSPX guy, so anyway, long story short, she decided to come back to the Church and she just told me she went to confession! YAAAYS! But then OH. Was this guy an SSPX priest or not?
Because, correct me if I’m wrong, but SSPX priests CANNOT validly absolve anybody, having no authority from the Church. So in trying to figure all of this out, she told me this priest was recently ordained, probably maybe in Kansas city, and by Alfonso de Galarreta. Now this guy, Galarreta, IS SSPX, but he is one of the four bishops from which the Pope lifted excommunication. So… does that mean he has the authority to ordain now??
I mean, I just can’t wrap my head around it. Was this priest who absolved my friend an SSPX or was he not or was he but had the faculties from the Church or WHAT.
I mean, I’m tearing my hair out over this, trying desperately to figure this out, because I love my friend so dearly and have been praying for her to come back to the Church for so many years and now, she thinks she had come back into the Church, and told me how emotional her confession was, and how she received Communion again and how wonderful that was, and all I can think is that she is seeking my outburst of joy, which I would so happily give if I wasn’t so skeptical of all of this! From what she told me, she received Communion on her knees, and I think that’s what the rest of the church did, and she told me “the Church that I went to as a rule says not to attend non-Latin masses because of the confusion it might cause.” So now I am REALLY confused, because that certainly reeks of SSPX.
And so in all of this taking place on IM, I am just praying and hoping I can say the right thing and charitably, and finally I just tell her, “oh yeah, I’m tired, so I’m going to go to bed, but I really want to talk to you later!!” and thank the Holy Spirit, she thought that was normal even though I hadn’t really expressed any joy yet, because I don’t think she gets what is going through my brain yet. And then I came here.
Annnnnnd hopefullly you know what is going through my brain. I am just so torn because I want to rejoice but I am so confused and uncertain about the validity of her confession and I couldn’t give her any straight answer. She keeps expressing her identification with “Traditional Catholics” which I read as SSPX, and so I have tried to explain to her schism and all of that stuff, but she doesn’t buy it. I’m just…
Yeah. So that’s what it is, and I just care about her so much and I want to give her SOMETHING, whether it’s ecstatic encouragement or charitable catechesis, but I am stuck somewhere in the middle, in Lala Land.
So PLEEEASE if you can, just help me out here. Your prayers would be great, too. Sorry that this was so scatterbrained, but that’s exactly how I feel.