This past weekend I was at a retreat where I went to confession. I confessed several sins in regard to my relationship with my husband–not being submissive, being unkind and impatient. I have been struggling with contraceptive issues, as I am a convert, and my husband is still Protestant. I am pregnant my fourth child in 6 years, the last 2 “unplanned” due to trying to use NFP. I have wondered if I were sinning by taking these issues in my own hands and pressuring my husband to not contracept. I guess I don’t know where the line is in respecting his role as leader and obeying Church teaching. (I have done some research on this matter and know the “rules”, as in I am allowed to have relations with him if he chooses to contracept on his own.) I am/was just trying to do a good examination of conscience and felt it was something I needed to confess. The priest in this confession acted as if none of the sins I confessed were even sins, and then went on to recommend that we check into our options for contraception! He did give me absolution, but I had to ask for a penance. I left feeling completely unsettled, and I do not know where to go from here. Please help!
Please forgive me for the long post.