My parents have been divorced for a couple years. This entire time I have heard it from both sides about how the other parent is worthless, just not worded that nicely. My older brother ended up pretty much severing contact with both of them because of it. I on the other hand have just been taking it blow after blow. My relationship with my parents are pretty much a love hate relationship anyways. We go extended periods of time where we have no contact what-so-ever.
My little sister is unfortunately stuck in the middle of this whole controversy. At 14 she has been through more than I have at 23. Recently we found out that she was assaulted by my mothers ex boyfriend. Ever since then my dad has been on a rampage. He texts me late at night to complain about something my mom said to my sister or something she did.
Tonight was no exception. My sister apparently told my step mom that she “partly blames my dad for what happened cause if he never left my mom it would have never happened.” To some degree I see where she is coming from. But at 14 I don’t think she really understands what all happened and what all is going on. To be honest I don’t understand either.
My dad texted me to complain saying that my mom is the one shoving that s*** down her throat and planting the ideas in his head. He went off about how she was right and that he shouldn’t have divorced my mom cause then his children wouldn’t be upset with him and his new wife wouldnt be sucking him dry financially.
At this point I have had enough from both of them. I don’t know why they come to me other than I’m the one who usually keeps my mouth shut. But tonight I have had enough. I told my dad that while he was on the regret trail why not wish he hadn’t met my mom to begin with. That would have saved him from a lot of trouble. he agreed with me and I told him that there was no point in dwelling in the past because it only leaves a person bitter. What happened happened. It’s called life. Accept it, deal with it, and move on. I assured him I wasn’t mad, and that I was just tired of hearing his pity party and that he’s not the only one suffering from all this.
I feel bad for what I said, however i don’t feel that i was completely in the wrong. I really don’t see what good it does to complain to your children about your own problems. I feel they are making me choose sides which I refuse to do.