the ideal is for the man to work as hard as he must to earn a living and to allow his wife have children and stay home with them. that’s how it is supposed to be.
but over the past several decades, we men have gotten soft. we can blame it on feminism if we want, but we are to blame.
these days, a woman who wants only to be a wife and mother–as God intended–is out of luck. women today must at a minimum earn a college degree (incurring huge debt in the process) before they are even eligible to have a husband. then, they must spend many years, if not their entire lives, working outside the home. if men would do what they are supposed to do, this would not be necessary.
at mass recently, our priest gave a children’s homily. he asked the kids, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” as i listened to the girls talk about being doctors and lawyers, i wondered, “what if my daughter wants to be a wife and mother? is that possible anymore?”
sadly, it’s really not an option. we men have made women a bad bargain and women have accepted it. it goes like this:
we men will allow you women to work outside the home. we don’t want to do whatever it takes to financially support you. we want you to financially support us as well. trust us, you’ll be happy.
the result is, women have far fewer kids than women had in previous generations. our families are small. we are not being fruitful and multiplying, as God commanded.
feminism is not to blame. we men are to blame. it’s a messed up situation.