I am most definitely a non-cry-it-out parent. Let’s start with that. I have 3 children, ages 5, 2, and 1 and am also pregnant with #4. I know exactly what you are talking about with the no rest thing. The thing is, and you know this, you NEED your rest. It is sooo much harder being a nice mommy when you are tired during the day, and just being pregnant makes you more tired. Not getting enough sleep just adds to the frustration.
I got pregnant with #3 and #4 while still nursing the previous child, and I did continue to nurse for a few months after getting pregnant. I have also continued night nursings nearly until the baby was weaned (around a year). Both of the last 2 children seemed to get more restless in our bed as they got older. This was my time to get them in their own bed so that I could sleep. I didn’t let them cry for extended periods, but I did let them cry a little in their own bed, once they got used to their crib. I had a monitor, and I turned the volume on my end all the way down so I could barely hear it. That way, I knew if the baby was crying, but it is not nearly as loud as a baby crying in the same room! If it was a hysterical sounding cry that I knew would not cease on its own, I would go in and comfort… hold, nurse, whatever. We also use pacifiers, and that has always been my salvation I think. But of course if you haven’t used them before, it’s not gonna do the trick on this one.
In your case, I think I would put the child in another room, with a sippy cup of water in case he has a dry mouth as you suspect. Make it a safe room with nothing he can trip over if he gets out of bed. At that age, I used a crib, so I’m not sure how that will work if they are able to get out of bed. Do you have a pack-n-play or porta crib you can use? Have your husband help you listen for the cries and make sure he isn’t getting too upset. Maybe take turns at night, so you can at least have one night of good sleep. If the other room is not an option, I think I would still try maybe a pack-n-play in my room (hmmm actually, this is what we did until #3 was 11 months old, now that I think about it).
Bottom line, I think you need help from dad.
I just read over your post again to make sure I had the facts straight. It seems that you probably don’t mind nursing at night and he cooperates if you are nursing him, right? Could you just continue nursing for a bit longer at night? As far as diapering, does he mind a wet diaper? I don’t usually change diapers at night, unless it’s a poop, even if they wake up with a full FULL diaper! The diapers are so great now about soaking the wetness away from their skin, I don’t think it bothers them that much.
Wow, I think I just gave you cry-it-out advice, and then alot of useless nonsense. My 3 are running around like crazy so I can’t think straight. Maybe something I said will help.
I would probably just keep nursing at night and not change diapers (as long as you can sleep thru the nursings). If you are not getting sleep anyway while nursing, you might as well wean him, in which case you are going to have a long week or 2 on your hands, and you definitely need dad to help you. Guess that is my bottom line.