Just married in the Church and had a reception. My brother and his family presented the gifts.
The family tradition is to give cash that would at least cover each person’s plate. Well, my brother, sil, niece and nephew gave an engraved jewelry box and card signed by sil with everyone’s name. I complained about it to mom and then brother (Iknow, very ungrateful of me). I also complained to my brother about his not making the time to come to the rehersal (him: “I had to work until 5” me"I had to work until 5:30 and i made it"); not coming to take pictures at 5 (him: “I had to work until 2:30” me: “I don’t have pictures from my wedding with you and I but you have pictures of your wedding with you and I”), and of course the gift (him “what was a nice gesture and gift was ruined, I was made to feel like I had to give you a grill like you gave me, I’ll give you the ******* $50 you gave me for my birthday to cover the cost of my plate” me “I don’t want your money, but I see you walk in with envelopes to everyone else’s wedding but mine” him “I only give $100 at those weddings” me: “when I bring my kids I give more than $100 to cover everyone’s plate” - by the way, the jewelry box I’ll never use was $85 and I’ll never use it b/c I DON"T wear jewelry).
What would you do if you were me? My brother is no longer talking to me and my mom (though my mom appologized to him and my sil many times over). Normally I wouldn’t care, but he has money and well we paid for it ourselves, a little monetary gift would have been more appreciated, selfish…maybe, but it’s the truth, we make waaaay less than my brother and sil)