[quote="karow, post:14, topic:248542"]
Name one good reason why the world should be filled with frumpy, dowdy, slovenly, messy, unkempt, un-coiffed, Christians. I can't think of one. Spiritually and emotionally healthy people, "happy" people, want to look their best, or at least want to look their best, at all times. It's not always possible to do so, but the desire is there. It's only common courtesy.
I took "attractive" to have been code for "sexually attractive" or "trendy" or whatever people wear on dates. I didn't think he was suggesting that people who don't want to marry should quit shaving, combing their hair, using deodorant, or wearing clean clothing.
Maybe the OP didn't know what "attractive" was supposed to mean. I'm with you, though: there is no reason that those who don't want to marry should have to look dowdy, and no reason that those who want to marry ought to feel they need to dress as if they're on display at a meat market.
There was a time and place when married women no longer wore certain colors and men didn't concern themselves with these things because it was assumed that women never made direct inquiries about a man's availability, but these are not those days. People who wonder if you're available are going to ask. In these days they're going to make their inquiries no matter* what* jewelry you're wearing. Unfortunately, that's the way it is.
If it becomes a widespread practice that singles wear wedding bands to deflect inquiries and advances, then wedding bands won't deflect inquiries for those who are married, even inquiries from the people who respect marriage. As it is now, the people who would care to look for a wedding band are the most likely to know how to take "no" for an answer, too. They're not really the people that cause the main concern, are they?