[quote=puzzleannie]well, I am in my late 50’s and if my kids are worried they aren’t telling us. Their dad has not been to a doctor in 20 years, because the last time he went he ended up in surgery, so he decided to eat right -vegtarian- and exercise. His client gives health screenings as part of their wellness program so they ran his tests, his cholesterol is under 250 (excellent in a family where the norm is over 500, and his was 520 when he had his gall bladder out), BP is normal, all other tests great. What he will die of is a blow to the head by a golf ball, or skin cancer because he golfs everyday down here.
If your mom is overweight, has dizzy spells which are eased by food, and is getting forgetful, also if she is having vision problems she should be tested for diabetes because silent complications are well in progress can result in full-blown kidney disease, blindness or an ulcerated leg that does not heal and other debilitating problems.
unfortunately, they are adults, and you can’t do much about it, except to express your concern and the pain it causes you when they neglect their health. My mom would not listen to us, and I probably would not listen to my kids. Is there anyone else who they do respect, whom you could ask to talk to them? My mom listened to my sister-in-law who said the same things her daughters did, but who were ignored. My husband ignored my advice, but listened to a radio doctor who told him the same thing.
does their parish or a nearby parish have a parish nurse they would consent to see? they usually do BP and cholesterol tests. as we get older we get terrified of doctors and hospitals because we start to see what happens to our friends. The go to the doctor for the flu, he quite correctly insists on a physical, and they end up going through a bypass or cancer surgery, complications set in, therapy tries to remedy the results of 20 years of physical neglect, and it is a downward spiral ending in a nursing home (that is the scenario that plays out in our minds). Also, most of us are taking care of our own parents and are in denial that we could be going the same way for the same reasons–bad diet, bad habits, no exercise.
one thing that did work with FIL (but only when he was 90) was to insist on driving him to his drivers license renewal and telling the clerk he could not see and was having dizzy spells. They refused to renew his license until he brought in a doctor’s letter. This finally got him into a doctor, and he was off the road (don’t know how many people in NW Ohio are still alive because of this, but be grateful). Of course the doctor found colon cancer, of which he later died, and he blamed us for that.
puzzleannie, see that’s the thing, they aren’t that old. But they do need to be taking care of themselves now to prevent worse things from happening in the coming years.
I understand what you’re saying about the downward spiral. My mom watched both her sisters die from lung cancer in their 50’s. Of course, they were both heavy smokers for years and my mom quit back in the 70’s. But both of their diseases were caught in routine physicals. I think she may be afraid of the same thing happening to her - ignorance is bliss.
Well, a local hospital sets up a blood pressure screening thing in the mall once a month I found out. Maybe I can strong arm them there, and get them to speak with a nurse or something while they’re there…:hmmm: