Jimbo, it doesn’t matter how you know about her sex life, as long as you are not a part of it! I am glad she confides in you.
Be patient, and pray for her, and for knowledge of how to help her. It may help you to know that, when I committed myself to being Catholic, I didn’t understand why the ban on contraception. But I knew the Church was right about everything else, and decided to take it on trust. Now I understand it.
Pray especially to Mary, that she bring Megan under her gentle mantle, and to St. Michael for her protection. We now experience a slight pause while I :crossrc:
I think the biggest thing to deal with here is her self-confessing. I hope this helps…
Does she read the Bible? If so, show her Jn 20:19-23. After His resurrection, Jesus breathed on the Apostles so that they received the Holy Ghost, and then gave them the power to forgive - and not forgive - the sins of others. This power has been passed down from the Apostles to their successors, the Bishops and priests. That is why we go to them for Reconciliation - we do not have the power to forgive our own sins. The only one who can is Jesus, and he gave that power to the Apostles in a special way. When they absolve us, they are standing in for Jesus; they are not doing it by their own power or judgment, but by His. They are not acting as mere men.
When the priest absolves me, I look at his hand. I don’t see the priest’s hand, but the hand of Jesus Himself. Even though I can’t see the hole, I know it’s there. Jesus Himself is forgiving me.
Then show her Mt 16:24. (repeated in Mk 8:34 and Lk 9:23.) Jesus tells us, “If any man would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.” To confess our sins, out of the deepest part of ourselves, is truly to deny ourselves. We don’t want to, out of fear of humiliation and/or being spiritually naked before another person. Well,
Then the soldiers of the governor took Jesus into the praetorium, and they gathered the whole battalion before him. And they stripped him and put a scarlet robe upon him, and plaiting a crown of thorns they put it on his head, and put a reed in his right hand. And kneeling before him they mocked him, saying, “Hail, King of the Jews!” And they spat upon him, and took the reed and struck him on the head. And when they had mocked him, they stripped him of the robe, and put his own clothes on him, and led him away to crucify him. (Mt 27:27-31)
And when He was hanging there, nails through His hands and feet, thorns sticking into His head,
…those who passed by derided him, wagging their heads, and saying, ‘Aha! You who would destroy the temple and build it in three days, save yourself, and come down from the cross!’ So also the chief priests mocked him to one another with the scribes, saying, ‘He saved others; he cannot save himself. Let the Christ, the King of Israel, come down now from the cross, that we may see and believe.’ Those who were crucified with him also reviled him. (Mk 15:29-32)
He went through all that for us; the humiliation as well as the pain. He didn’t do it so that we could feel good about ourselves. He atoned for our sins - He paid for them in advance. That doesn’t mean He forgave them in advance. If we want to be free of all our sin, we have to imitate His humiliation. When I look at it that way, confessing to a priest doesn’t look like much.
There is also James 5:16. There is nothing I can find in the Bible that tells us to pray for ourselves, or (especially) that we can forgive our own sins.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is my homily for the day. :rolleyes:
But, Jimbo, none of that matters if she doesn’t understand, or believe in, the Real Presence. She may be unworried about offending a mere wafer. :crying:
I have some verses for that, too - but it’s harder to prove, to someone who is sure it is not the Body and Blood.
And, thanks for making me do a Bible study.