[quote="rapunzel77, post:1, topic:201521"]
Hi, I am a newbie here but this is a question that I have had for a while. I recently got married in October, 2008 and my husband and I want to start a family but my husband has a medical problem that might prevent us for the time being from conceiving :(. That is a long story but anyway, I want to have children but I am very scared of getting pregnant. I'm 32 and I am a overweight. Sure, I know I can lose some weight but I will probably never lost a lot :( due to my genes, etc. I have heard all sorts of horror stories about bigger women who get pregnant and all the health problems. It scares me.
How do you deal with these sorts of feelings? Is there anyone here who has had a similar situation?
Well, I am overweight (morbidly obese according to BMI) and am now 8 months pregnant. I think some people have said that overweight people have a tendency to have difficulties conceiving at all, but that wasn't the case for us. We were married in September and pregnant in October. :D I have had a lot of problems during this pregnancy, but I'm not even sure I'd connect ALL of them to having been overweight.
I have swelling problems, I kind of did before, but now they're really bad...but good blood pressure and I'm not dropping any protein so I'm not pre-eclampsic. Just uncomfortable. ;) I get that from my mom unfortunately, she is on 2 different medications to decrease swelling and she is past menopause, so I know I'm just "blessed" with that from her.
I was diagnosed a month or so ago with gestational diabetes. THAT sucks the most. They think that I was probably pre-diabetic before because my fasting blood sugar was soooo high. So, I'm not giving medical advice, but health advice. This isn't necessarily a diet, and you shouldn't take out carbs/sugars completely, but I'd recommend getting an idea on sugars BEFORE you get pregnant. If you know someone who has a blood glucometer, I'd ask them if they'd let you take 2 blood sugars...one while fasting and one 2 hours after eating. "They" say that fasting should be 60-90 and after eating 60-120, I think that's normal for non-pregnant. You could also always ask your regular doc to do this for you, but really that would be a lot of money for lab work, and if you know a diabetic that has their own glucometer, it would be so much easier. This is the one thing I'd really stress....it's HARD to change eating habits, but let me tell you it's MUCH harder in some ways to do that while you're pregnant. You have no idea how much I've been craving a corn dog since the day I was diagnosed! :( And it's not a worthwhile use of my daily allotted carbs, so I won't bother.
Anyway, I'd say, don't be afraid...but definitely be proactive. I REALLY wish someone had mentioned to me the possibilities of gestational diabetes in overweight (possibly), pre-diabetic women. In fact, I REALLY wish I'd known I was pre-diabetic before.
My recommendations on checking your blood sugar seem frighteningly close to being medical advice, please mods, it's not my intention! :o They're just so easy to come by now, there's really no reason to not find out and make yourself a bit more healthy when it's easier.