Ever have one of those days where it starts bad and just keeps getting progressively worse? Days, where you should just keep your mouth shut before you do some serious damage?
Well, today was one of them.
I was at work, there is five of us (all women) in our office. We have a new lady and she knew my boss through the lutheran school their children went to. My boss is a Lutheran and so is this lady. I assumed she believed in most Christian principles.
We were talking about nothing in particular when my boss says, ‘did you know that so and so has left the school?’ (a teacher) and new lady says,
"yes and I’m glad, he was an opinionated, nasty, …, …, …, (more adjectives) homophobic, so and so."
I piped up, 'I hate that word 'homophobic, it insinuates that we’re scared of homosexuals and we’re not, we just don’t agree with what they do’
She said, 'my son is homosexual’
I said, 'you can love your son but it’s still wrong’
THEN THERE WAS SILENCE… in the whole office.
I could have crawled into a hole!
I emailed my boss and said, 'Oh dear, I’ve upset her. I wish i had known. I would have kept my mouth shut!'
So she suggested she go out with her and I come and I could talk to her.
We had to go out not long after to take photos and boss told me and this other lady to go too.
I apologised to her, said I didn’t know. She said it was fine and not to worry. She didn’t really want to talk about it.
I talked to my other co workers, saying how bad I felt (before we left to go out) and one said very little, the other said, 'it’s not wrong, there’s nothing wrong with it if they’re not hurting anyone, etc etc,"
After that, we were coming back. Lady I offended (trudy) fell over on the road and grazed her arm. I found a little bird that was suffering from heat exhaustion. So i picked it up and brought it into the office to revive it. It was in a box, after a while it got out and started flying around the office, to the shreiks and screams of my co workers who were scared of birds!
All while Trudy was getting her arm bandaged…
Later on, we were discussing my second daughter, who wants to go to a very traditional catholic college in another state. I told them that it was catholic and it had mass every morning etc.
Lady who agreed with homosexuality,(Silvana) said she couldn’t think of anything worse. We got onto religion, then abortion!
We debated abortion with me saying how wrong it was and she saying that its someones choice… and used herself as an example. If she wanted to have one, she would just have to live with the consequences and learn from them.
At the cost of the life of another? I said to her…
And she said that she believed that when a baby was conceived that the soul goes in and out of it until it was born. That it doesn’t stay with it. Huh?
I said that makes no sense and that was just a copout to allow people have abortions without having to worry about killing a child with a soul (not exactly those words but something to that effect)
AND MORE SILENCE.
I left feeling terrible. I know what I was saying was right and I wasn’t nasty but sometimes there is no right or good way to state the truth.
But why is it when I stand up for my beliefs that I always come away feeling like the ogre??
Is it best never to say anything? I just don’t know.