What are the conditions for forgiveness?


What are the conditions for forgiveness in the confessional? Are there any circumstances where u cannot be forgiven?


You need a firm purpose of amendment and a contrition. Also, there is an obligation to confess all; the mortal sins you commit since your last valid confession.


Baltimore Catechism

Q. 607. Give an example of the “right dispositions” for Penance and for the Holy Eucharist.

A. The right dispositions for Penance are:
1. To confess all our mortal sins as we know them;
2. To be sorry for them, and
3. To have the determination never to commit them or others again.

Also, for an eastern Catholic, there are reserved sins which means the bishop would have to be involved.


Out of four posts, three are directly related to Confession. Perhaps you might consider thinking up your questions and ask your priest at your next Confession to try getting them all out at once? I’ll grant they’re stretched over 4 months so you’re not constantly having questions, but it could still be something to think about.



The Sacrament of Reconciliation is the normative means by which a Christian avails themselves of the mercy and grace of God for the forgiveness of sins. The two effects of confession are the sacramental forgiveness of sin through the redemption of Jesus Christ, and an increase in grace that helps renew a Christian’s soul and increase their ability to resist temptation. In an earlier article, I dealt with answering the question of why Catholics practice confession of sins to a priest. If you need an answer to this question, for an answer. In this article I will help instruct the reader on how to make a good confession.

Requirements for Confession

Under normal circumstances only a baptized Catholic can receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation. However, this restriction can be lifted in the case of grave circumstances (such as imminent death of a non-Catholic Christian).

For Catholics, three things are required for a valid sacramental confession. First, the Catholic must examine his conscience honestly and thoroughly and must not withhold confession of any mortal sins (CCC 1456).

Second, the confessor must be contrite and repentant (CCC 1451).
A contrite person will seek the Sacrament of Confession because he is sorry for his sins. Love for God is the best motivation for seeking God’s forgiveness, but even if the confessor is not perfectly contrite (and seeks forgiveness out of simple fear of hell) the Sacrament of Reconciliation will still remain valid (CCC 1453).

However, if a person enters the Sacrament with the intention of committing the sin later, then this person is not sorry for his sins and the sin will not be forgiven. Finally, the confessor must complete the penance assigned to him by the priest as soon as possible (CCC 1494).

As soon as possible, complete your penance and rejoice in the fact that your sins have been forgiven by the blood of Jesus Christ. Rejoice and resolve to sin no more!


You just need to want to confess your sins with acknowledgment that they are sins and the realisation that what you had done was against God (and against each other).

Because you are confessing your sins, it has to be with reasonable regret on your part knowing what you did was wrong which hurt your relationship with God (and with others). You can say a prayer asking God to forgive you of your sins and ask His help so that you will not commit them again.

It is about wanting to confess your sins and your prayers.


What about forgiving another, who is unacknowledging of their offense againt you?


If a person can do so, desire for any revenge should be eliminated, for even the serious thought of doing evil to another is a sin, although justice can be pursued. Sometimes there is an involuntary desire. The offending person may still be an enemy.

Luke 6

35 But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. 36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

Matthew 5

7 Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.


And as the above question relates to a spouse?


Yes, it could be a spouse.


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