Yeah, I’m a cradle catholic, 25 and I still don’t know the answer to this question and I’m too embarassed to ask a priest.
I avoided confession for about 15 years. I went a couple of times and funbled my way through it. last year, I made my first, ever, REAL confession. I’ve been to confession a couple of times sense and the priest has let me get away with fumbling my way through because I told him that I hadn’t been in so long and was nervous and all that. well, now that I am maturing in my faith (at long last) I want to do things properly. I know it goes something sort of like this,
“bless me father, for I have sinned. it’s been (fill in the blank) since my last confession”. then do I just start rolling off my sins? Is there something else I’m supposed to say before I start confessing? how do I let the priest know that I’m all finished? do I say, “that’s all.” or what? I know this is sort of a wierd question and I know that what’s in my heart is more important than what’s in my mouth, but now that I’ve gotten over my fear of confession, I would like to do it properly. Also, I’m not quite sure how the act of contrition goes. I know it says something like, “dearl lord, I’m sorry for having offended thee (something about fearing the loss of heaven) and I promice to repent and do pennance” or something like that. how does it actually go? I am planning on going to confession this evening and I want to do it properly.
This is a different question, but on the same subject. my husband is not catholic. but if we both sinned together and I feel that I need to confess, what can he do? he’s a Christian. should we just pray together after I go to confession? can I pray for him in confession since he’s my husband? how does that work? any advice?