I voted financial–since that’s the primary reason, but we also other difficulties both practically and psychologically.
My energy level just accomodates homeschooling and caring for six kids, so it would be hard on everyone to have a baby.
My husband is looking at getting a 2nd job (which might help with our financial situation), but then he’d be unavailable to a parental support to me and the kids.
Our house and van are small. We currently are driving a 7 passenger van. And, the house is 1500 sq feet with only 3 bedrooms. and, in the current money crunch, we cannot expand either into a bigger van or a bigger house.
This is not a good reason, but since I’m being open and honest, we aren’t sure that we are strong enough right now to handle the pressure and censure of his parents who live next door to us. My MIL in particular is very unkind to us when we have a baby. Oddly, though, she’s a very good grandmother.
It’s really more of a combination of reasons than one reason in particular.
But, honestly, it’s my dh who is the hold up. He feels the practical consequences of another baby more than I do. I’m ready for another baby and I think all the practicalities will resolve themselves.
So maybe I should add, that I don’t think my dh is ready. I think it would be really hard on him–much more than me. He has so many responsibilities in our family. And, he seems very stressed out. I don’t want to add to his stresses until some of our money problems resolve.
Though, I’m 38, so how much time do we have?