I need help. My daughter, who was in the process of seeking an annulment for her first marriage, has decided she just doesn’t want to “deal” with it right now. She says she is not going to put all her personal business before a group of “men” who know nothing about marriage and let them decide whether her first marriage was valid or not, because even if the declaration of nullity is denied, she intends to re-marry anyway. She is not going to live alone the rest of her life - she’s only 29…blah,blah, blah. Her intended spouse is Catholic (though he’s received all the sacraments, he’s only recently began practicing the faith again) and he has never been married. I have tried to talk to her about the sacrament of marriage and how important it is to go thru all the proper preparation (which did not happen with her first marriage). That was part of the problem - her first husband was not a believer, although he had been baptized as a Lutheran. He was never raised with any religious foundation. I’ve tried to explain the risk to her immortal soul by living in an adulterous state. She says, “God knows what’s going on in my life and my heart. Why does the Church just go about telling everyone that they’re going to hell?”.
I know this is long… but I am sick at my stomach. What do I do? I’ve told her I would not be able to attend any type of ceremony because I cannot profess to be a Catholic and witness a marriage that is invalid. Please help…any advice is deeply appreciated.
Thank you for all you do…God Bless you