I have been feeling unwanted by my hubby lately. The past few days, he cannot bring himself to finishing the marital embrace. I don’t want to go into too many details, but is physically unable to finish (becomes soft ). Last night we had an argument because I told him I was hoping to be intimate with him. All he said was that he was tired and that maybe if we went to bed earlier, he wouldn’t have a problem. He told me he hates to go to bed late and if I had to get up early, I would understand. :mad: I cannot believe he said that because I work FT and whenever he gets up early, I cannot go back to sleep! He makes way too much noise in the mornings and I cannot go back to sleep. Then I cook, I clean, and I’m pregnant. :mad: I am awake as long as he is and the time we go to bed is 10pm. How earlier does he want to go to bed?
I told him crying that I didn’t know what he expected. I said that we already go to bed early and he still tells me he’s tired and rather go to sleep. Lately it has been me who asks for intimacy, it was always him but not any longer. Hubby got out of our bedroom angry and said I was playing the victim because I was crying. I don’t feel wanted, I feel hurt, rejected, and that is why I cried. I couldn’t believe he was telling me he would want me if we went to bed earlier than 10pm, sometimes we go to bed at 9:30pm. Yesterday he took a 3 hr nap from 7-10pm and then we went to bed, he said he wasn’t sleepy any more but when I wanted intimacy, he said he was tired. He watched tv for 1.5 hrs, then when he left the bedroom it was around 11:45pm and watched more tv in the family room and came back an hour later. I was still awake but he didn’t say anything. This morning he apologized but I feel so rejected… :crying:
What am I supposed to do? How do I react to this? Is it normal? We’ve only been married 2 yrs. The first yr, he wanted me every day, last night he said “what? you want it every day???” We are only intimate about 10 times in an entire month… am I asking for too much? Do men lose sexual apetite and desire for their wives this early in the marriage?