[quote="Gordon_Sims, post:14, topic:250488"]
On a day-to-day basis, a good sense of humor is important to me. Common sense, as well. I like people who can be serious when needed, but not so much that we can't have a good laugh. I highly prize anyone who can give good advice, but who also understands if I don't or can't follow it.
I also like people who, when I'm having a bad day, will let me vent. I quit talking to one coworker after spending countless nights listening to him complain about an endless variety of topics and never interrupting or criticizing him. He called me one night after I'd had a particularly rough day. After all the times and countless hours he'd vented to me, I figured I could take up fifteen minutes of his time getting something off my chest. After about thirty seconds he interrupted me, said he got it and then said who cares. I kept things strictly professional after that.
One thing I absolutely cannot take is people who are never wrong. The type who, no matter the subject, they're an expert. I told one acquaintance about an issue I ran into at my girls' school. He listened intently then called me a liar. He said it never happened and insisted that I made the whole thing up. I calmly explained that it truly had occurred and he proceeded to throw a fit, giving me all the reasons why he knew I was lying. He yelled for a bit and got his blood pressure way up over the whole thing, and slung quite a bit of profanity at me. A friend of mine was with me at the time and, after this guy had ranted for a good spell, finally spoke up and told him that, not only was what I said true, but he'd seen the letter from the principal that detailed what I'd said. The guy called him a liar, too, then stormed off. He's the exact opposite of what I look for in a friend.
I really liked this answer. Because I am really getting frustrated because I can't tell you how often I am in situations such as you described and I am starting to feel 'weird'. It seems the story of my life to always listen to others and the second I share something they couldn't care less. I am feeling really alone
For example, once I met a guy and he asked me out. We ended up not getting together because I told him I would not get into his car and we needed to meet somewhere I could get to by bus since it was the first date. We got into such an argument about me not wanting to get into his car on a first date that I told him I was no longer interested. A few days later I had to put my cat to sleep and a friend said 'Call me anytime tonight if you need to talk I will listen. Don't worry about calling too late'. So when I called at 10pm, it sounded like she wasn't there so I said 'Hello are you there' to which she replied 'My boyfriend is trying to fall asleep and I am tickling his ears. I found that invalidating since she is the one who told me to call she would listen. Then (foolish me) kept talking and told her I wasn't going on the date because he didn't respect my 'no getting into a man's care on the first date rule' she laughed and said he was right and I was wrong
A few months later I met another guy who said 'I have a boat. I would love to take you out but I understand it would be uncomfortable for you. Invite along a few of your friends so you can feel safe'. When I asked her if she would like to come on the boat she blurted out 'I don't know this man I will not get into his boat.'
It just hurts that there are 2 sets of standards. When I want to play it safe, I am stupid but if when she wants to play it safe she is high class
As for the guy who though you were a liar. I also can't take that. Kind of like the lady who told me to learn to shop for dress pants. I have spent HOURS over the years trying to find dress pants and I really don't see why I should kill myself finding pants when I am more than happy to wear skirts. And in one five minute conversation she blurts out 'You need to learn how to shop' It is as if she is discounting all the energy I spent over the years, which makes me frustrated it. And also, she is acting like I SHOULD wear pants when really it is my personal decision