[quote="Paddy1989, post:6, topic:254151"]
I would say that women are the biggest for being too hung up in infatuation and wanting to move faster. My point is how did you know after a week you both were right for each other, i would just like to know by those whom are married is this always the same. Does it just hit you. I always thought you needed at least a year to find out, with my EX we were going with each other 3 year's and i had finally come to accept it wasn't meant to be and it is much better this way, if one is not certain after a year does that mean it isn't right?
It did, it just hit both of us. It just seemed like we moved at the same speed, wanting the same things out of life, we were both Catholic and had the same set of values and morals. I didn't go into the first date telling myself I'm meeting my future spouse and its all going to go according to a plan. It just happened. I had been in two long term relationships before, and never had the same reaction as I did when I even first met my husband, let alone after the first couple of dates.
I do think it meant all the difference in the world that we were both over the age of 25, both had jobs/career paths, and were done with the whole typical dating scene. We both had gone through our own independent discernment phases and we never played the certain games in dating that younger single people tend to play. I think we were pretty much grown up as individual people. We've grown as a couple for sure, and I'm still finding new stuff out about my husband every day, but fundamentally he's the same person he was the day I met him, and vice versa. His core character is still the same.