[quote="littlenothing, post:2, topic:324590"]
I think love is an action word. You're right, its alot easier to forgive a person who didn't injure you. So how can we "love" them? By praying for their souls and hoping that justice is served for their benefit here on earth. How can we love our unlovable spouses, friends, patients, acqauinetences? By always treating them with respect and fulfilling our duties toward them no matter how we may feel.
I am still waiting for a feeling of love for many people to wash over me and make things easier. But it hasn't happened yet. I think there is more merit to the action of love you don't feel than when you do feel it. After all, Jesus Himself said it isn't enough to love your brothers..even the pagans do this. (Something to that effect). He knew we would have a rough time loving the unlovable.
Thank you--you have thought about this and see the difficulty. Your second paragraph is ripe with issues if I understand it. eg--You are with a friend and because you feel it's important to impress her with your "generosity" you give a beggar who belongs to a group you despise ( a racial group member, a religious group member, etc.) $50. Your friend is impressed. The beggar, who otherwise you'd never give a penny, jumps with joy and say, "God bless you. I can pay the mechanic for my car and take that job I have been offered. OR---
You give a $1 bills to a beggar as you pull out of Walmart. It gives you a nice warm feeling inside so you do it every time as you pull out and you get the warm feeling. Then one beggar takes your bill but complains at the small amount."I want more," he says.. Look at that car you drive." You don't get the warm feeling and although you keep giving $1 to others you don't give anything to the beggar who complained.
Is giving to others for the purpose of getting your warm feeling inside an expression of love?
Is not giving to someone because you think they are ungrateful consistent with loving or should you give anyway to those who abuse you?
I think the issue is, does your motive for doing an act that helps someone have any bearing on whether it constitutes and act of love?