[quote="rachella14, post:1, topic:234062"]
Hi! I currently have a 2.5 yr old and a 1.5 yr old. DH and I have been preventing successfully since DS2 was born, and are now trying to decide when to stop preventing for a third.
DH has said he will do whatever I'm most comfortable with. I go back and forth. I feel like I want another baby, but I'm worried that it would be too soon, too overwhelming, too stressful for the older children, etc. I had a hard time with the second baby, and I want to really be able to enjoy the transition to a family of five. We are also planning a cross country move in two years, and have considered the idea of waiting until we've done that so we don't have to worry about the logistics of selling a house with a newborn or young infant in it.
So, I think it would be helpful if I had an idea of what the Church considers a "serious" reason to prevent. Is it just a health thing? Financial? I imagine emotional concerns can be serious too, right? Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
What is serious for one couple might not be serious for another. You should definitely pray about this and seek guidance from your priest or spiritual director. And talk with your spouse, too.
Also remember that fertility is not a guarantee. Since the dawn of the birth control pill, people have forgotten that women are not baby making machines who get pregnant every time they sleep with a man. Some families only have one or two children, they try to have more but the wife never gets pregnant. My mom's friend wanted (and still wants) a dozen children but God gave her four. It took a few years to have the first one, the next three came at a normal spacing, and then she just stop getting pregnant after the fourth. We need to remember to be OPEN to children, but also know they are not a guarantee. Each child is a blessing and we should allow for a child to be brought into the world, but also know that God might not want us to have more children.