Hello everybody. I’m new here. After searching this forum, this looked like the right place to put this question, if not, I apologize.
My dad died on December 9th. He, my mom and one of my 4 year old children were on a 3 hour drive to see my sister for her birthday. My dad lost control of his pickup (it was slick out that day) and they ended up rolling down a steep hill. From seeing the hill and the truck, it’s easy to see how my dad didn’t survive this, but hard to figure out how exactly my mom and son did. We are very grateful they did though of course.
Since this all happened, I’ve had so many questions. I believe that God knows when we all will die. He knows the number of days we all have. I’m confused though if it’s God’s choice that we go at that time or not. It seems that all 3 of them easily could have died in the crash, but I believe like many are saying, it wasn’t mom’s or my son’s time.
In talking to our priest about how to talk to our kids about this, he said that we need to separate the accident from God. In other words say that an accident happened, then God came to take “pappy” to heaven. Don’t tell the kids that God decided it was pappy’s time so the accident happened because of that… But I’m having trouble reconciling all of that in me.
Does God just know, because he knows all but he decides not to intercede? Does he know and have an active roll in causing the person to die because it is their time?
I have so many more thoughts in my mind about this. But this question is long enough for now. Thanks in advance for your answers.