First of all I want you to know that English is my second language and I’m not so good at it, so I’d be glad if you used elementary vocabulary here.
There’s no info in my country’s internet. I live about 10000km far away from America.
My problem is very complicated. I’ve heard hundreds of different interpretations of lust and as a result now I have no clue what lust is. I’m going to describe it as I think it is, and then I’ll give you an example. This is my first post on this forum and I hope it’s in the right place, so that I won’t get punished by a moderator.
So I’m very confused, because some people (priests and “normal” people) say this(there are different interpretations):
Lust is a sin when you imagine having sex with a girl you see, or when you think about her nude body, when you have dirty thoughts about her or when you act this way to have sex with her etc.
So sexual desire that you feel when you look at a beautiful women (for example in bikini) is not a sin as long as you don’t do these things that are above. You can look at them and feel excited as long as you want and it’s not bad.
Lust is a sin when you feel sexual desire to a woman that you see (bikini) and you should stop doing this, look at something else like floor, or go somewhere where you won’t see beautiful girls, so that I don’t get stimulated. It’s natural to feel attracted, but when you get aware you should stop looking (after 1-2 seconds).
It’s also imagining these things that I’ve written in point 1 (including acting to have sex).
And I don’t know which interpretation is a good one. Maybe I didn’t described it good enough. Please, tell me what it is.
I’m asking because I got to the point when every look at women seems to be a heavy sin… and it’s so horrible, that I’ve got depressed…
So please, give me a good interpretation of what lust is… I really don’t get it. I beg you to use really elementary vocabulary with some examples if needed…
And I have a question:
Is it a heavy sin, when I see a girl with beautiful body and I look at her bust, legs or butt and I feel excited and I enjoy it? (I don’t have bad thoughts or something. If it happens then I refuse it.) So is it a heavy sin when I keep looking and feeling excited?
Can I look at beautiful girls as long as I want? For example I surf the net and I see a picture of a girl in bikini, may I look at it for example for 10 second and feel excited, and it’s not a sin?
I’m so confused that I want to cry… I completely have no clue about it.
In real life I really like girls and I don’t want to hurt them in any way. They’re like a queens hah.
I’m waiting for you answer and help…
BTW: I’m 18 years old… I’ve never had a girlfriend
I know looks are not everything, and are not so important, but as a male I like to look at cute girls. I hope you understand me…
Thank you very, very much.